Five tips to improve the relationship of your teenage son with his siblings

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2024-09-11

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Many parents suffer from conflict between some of their children, especially teenagers, and their younger siblings. Mothers complain about the teenager's dominance over his younger siblings, which is evident in his dealings with them by ordering and forbidding them, and he may shout at them or hit them! His younger siblings are overcome by fear of him, and become discomforted in his presence, and perhaps if they hear his voice, they become terrified. This negative relationship between siblings extends and grows even after they reach adulthood and grow up; we find the authority of the older brother over his younger brothers is effective on them.

In order for parents to be able to overcome this crisis, and correct the nature of the relationship between their teenage children and their young children, we offer these educational tips that may help parents and educators in raising their children: -

First: Your son may have a feeling of deficiency and need for special attention and care; Make him feel important, motivate him with words or actions, focus on his interests and support him in a special way. He will interact with you and respond to what you guide him to do, because of the boost in his self-confidence that he has received. This makes him think differently about his younger brothers.

Second: Sometimes the teenage son wants to achieve his goals, such as buying a football, participating in an art exhibition, or traveling on a trip with his colleagues. The father and family must support him in all his affairs, and develop the spirit of determination and persistence in him to continue on his path until the peak of success, so that he realizes that his value grows in the souls of his family with what he does well and succeeds in.

Third: Do not insult or punish your son in front of his brothers, or treat him in a way that excludes and marginalizes him. Beware of shouting at him in front of guests, and avoid threatening language with him. Do not compare him to the children of neighbors or acquaintances, as all of this makes him lose confidence in himself and makes him frustrated. He may even hate the people in front of whom he is insulted or those you compare him to, so he will have an envious and spiteful heart that will be reflected in his behavior and consequently in his relationship with his brothers.

Fourth: The teenager always tries to imitate a model that he is influenced by, whether it is his father, uncle, maternal uncle or a celebrity; because he wants to prove himself to others, let them hear his voice and show them his performance, so it is necessary to give him space to move in even if he seems annoying; because he is in the process of building his personality and proving himself, so let him decide for himself and take some measures related to his studies or relationships and face the consequences of his choice.

Fifth: Have your teenage son contribute to buying some gifts for his siblings, especially those younger than him, on occasions such as their birthdays or successes. Conversely, enable your young children to give him gifts on happy occasions, both private and public.