Some families resort to hiring a nanny to raise their children, and these results from reasons that may force them to do so; among them: the large number of household burdens on the mother, the large number of children, or commitment to responsibilities outside the home, and other justifications. However, studies and scientific research have confirmed the negative nature of this matter on the child’s personality and psychological health, especially in the case of complete dependence on nannies. Practical experiments have also proven that the presence of nannies along with taking turns at home for long periods of time with the children without the presence of mothers and fathers negatively affects the child’s psyche.

The mother’s role in raising children is the most important and influential role of all, and her influence on the children is not limited to the childhood stage, but extends to affect their personalities and behavior in all periods of their lives. The child needs a good and stable relationship with his mother to feel safe and appreciated. During the first or second year, the child should be under the care of the father and mother, especially in terms of visual contact and touch. This will nourish the child with optimism, confidence, and security if he is cared for and dealt with in a good manner, if he does not feel trust, he will suffer from insecurity, lack of value, and general lack of trust in the world, and therefore he may fail to achieve successful relationships with others. The child also needs someone who loves him and interacts with him emotionally, and this is necessary for the child’s emotional and social development, and it is natural that a mother is the safest person possible that the child gets love and tenderness from... In summary, no one else can fill the role of mother and father, especially the mother in the child’s first years.

Therefore, one of the researchers considers, “Entrusting the child’s upbringing to the nanny is a kind of mechanization of upbringing, and transferring the responsibility of upbringing to the female servant is a kind of grazing and fattening the calves. There is no difference between it and giving responsibility of the sheep to the shepherd so he can let them out in the pastures and fatten them. There are no emotions, no tenderness, and no love.” And its results will be as the Greek proverb says: “If you entrust the raising of your child to servants and slaves, you will soon be the owner of two slaves.”

The negatives become greater and greater when the mother leaves her basic job in life, which is motherhood, and relies completely on the nanny to raise her child. The nanny, no matter how good her character, knowledge, and experience, she cannot replace a mothers role, and she cannot meet all of the child’s educational needs.

The child will perceive that the feelings towards him are not serious and that the love is artificial, so he does not feel comfortable, and perhaps he becomes wilted without being able to express and reveal it. He does not want to be separated from his mother’s arms when sleeping until he gets used to it. If he despairs of obtaining his desire, and for this reason researchers and scholars have mentioned a number of negatives that the child will grow up with while in the arms of nannies, including:

- The child develops a feeling of inferiority and his self-confidence weakens.

- He has a defect in his intellectual and emotional maturity.

- He is introverted, growing up as a stranger in a strange land.

- He suffers from difficulty in dealing with his peers, and creates problems around him.

- He does not have the coping skills to deal with everyday problems that threaten his sense of security.

- He has mood swings, and his reactions are illogical, incomprehensible, and exaggerated.

- He becomes very dependent on others, and always turns to them to solve his problems.

- He is never able to sit alone, because he does not love himself, and his self-talk is negative.

- He often lacks a lot of the ability to give love, as he who lacks something does not give it.

- His feeling of the value of the family as a whole decreases, as the nanny in any case may not support his relationship, even with his siblings.

- He may be afflicted with the scourge of selfishness, as the nanny often does not have the patience to teach the child taking others into account.

- The presence of foreign nannies may pose a threat to the child’s value system, and they may also affect the child’s religious beliefs.